Am dating a man going through divorce
Strategic reasons not to date before divorce Emotions are raw during a divorce.
When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband's wounds.
Even if your husband has carried on numerous affairs during your marriage, he will not think that you are justified in seeing someone new at this time.
All he will focus on is that he has been wronged and will want to seek justice anyway he can.
Believe me, he will likely react to the fact that you are dating by making your life hell during the divorce process.
He may seek revenge to compensate for the anger, hurt, and embarrassment that he feels you have caused him.
This can affect the outcome of your divorce as far as spousal support and the eventual property settlement goes.
Even if you have been separated from your husband for a while, dating during your divorce can be used to help prove marital misconduct during your marriage.
Dating during divorce can poison the spirit of cooperation and affect your life for a long time after the divorce is final (and possibly after your boyfriend is history).
Not only will both you and your husband's conduct be scrutinized during a custody case, but also so will be the conduct of your boyfriend.
If he has a shady background, it will be used against you.
He may try to even the score by fighting about custody of the children or how to split the marital estate.
If you have children, then you also need to realize that it's in your best interest to try to keep a cordial relationship with your husband.